bringing back the past...

Just wondering, out of curiosity, whether people tend to keep in touch with their ex boyfriends or girlfriends? and hows it like to actually sit down and have a chat, a cuppa with them? How would the emotional feeling react to such a situation?

Im sure that there are people who do that, but how does it go? Most relationships do not end on mutual terms, and most couples do not tend to keep in contact after the relationship. But for those who do, how does it feel like to look at a person who you used to care for and loved for?

Wouldnt it remind you too much about the past, one that you might not necesarily want to be reminded of as you now want to work towards the future. Even if the relationship ended well and both sides agree on keeping in contact and staying as friends, the thought about their past are bound to come into the picture once again when the two meet up for a chat. Topics about the past are bound to be brought up, question like, why did you or what would have happened if...are bound to be thrown into the conversation at one point or another.

even if some may say that...nah...im just meeting up as friends, nothing more and thoughts wont come into my head as im now attached to someone else. I believe its a whole lot of crap as it is certain that something is going to bug you sooner or later.

For this, i do have to say that i respect those people who know how to keep this to a minimum, i would not say that there are couples, or ex couples who can meet up and not having any of these thoughts passing through their minds, as it is just impossible to do so. The time that couples spent together, whether long or short, most definitely includes knowing, or maybe even memorizing each others lifestyle,background, personality, secrets even that no other people know off. The closeness that couples have to each other is quite great and its definitely impossible to meet up in the future without having thoughts about the past spring to your mind and heart. As for that, like i said before, respect people who can meet up with their ex and actually keep all this feelings to a minimum. Even more so for those who did not end on the highest note of their relationship, as it is harder to reconcile and even after reconciliation with each other, questions like what would have happened, would we still be...are given a more serious approach, and thus the past will still linger forever in their lives, may it be kept in a small lil box in their hearts...but forever...somewhere in their lives.